We talk to ourselves very often, and much of the talk is negative. Become aware of this internal conversation. Make it a practice to relate to yourself with affection and compassion. Think of a term of endearment which you like. You may want to go back into any period of time in your life, including the recent past, when you remember being called or named by another person with sweetness, and with sacred, divine energy. This might have been a parent, grandparent, child, friend or loved one who addressed you in a sweet and sacred manner. It might be something such as “Brother Jamal,” or “Sweetheart,” or “Dearest….” Remember that precious moment of sacred naming, and repeat it to yourself often, in a tender tone, especially when you hear yourself speaking negatively to yourself or criticizing yourself. The use of this sacred name will inevitably change the course of your inner dialogue, and gradually it will soften and shift.